The most useful questions don’t just gather facts. They create movement. Calibrated questions are built so the other side feels in control while they carry the problem forward.
Instead of telling, you ask “How” and “What” in ways that make implementation their task. “How am I supposed to do that?” forces constraints into the open. A “What” invites the real obstacle.
People fight statements. They answer questions. When they answer, they start negotiating with themselves, and you learn the logic behind their position. Silence is part of the tool: ask, then wait long enough for them to think out loud.
Keep your tone and your words short. Let them build the bridge—then choose where it leads.
Once the path is clear, the next risk is false agreement and weak follow-through.