If you want people to act, don’t make it feel like obedience. Make it feel like choice, pride, and advantage.
Begin with sincerity: check your motives. Then respect the other person’s dignity—no orders, no pressure games, no hidden traps.
Explain the benefit in their terms. Tie the action to what they care about: time saved, stress reduced, opportunity gained. Make the “why” clear.
Offer options when possible. Ask for suggestions on how to proceed. When a person helps shape the plan, they feel ownership—and ownership creates enthusiasm.
Give credit. Let them save face. Praise progress. Make the task feel doable and the person feel capable. People enjoy contributing when contribution feels honorable.
Influence is not a speech. It’s an atmosphere: respect, clarity, and shared purpose. When those are present, people don’t just comply. They cooperate—and they feel good doing it.