The Law of Covetousness
People want what they can’t fully possess. Desire is often less about the thing and more about the story: the fantasy of completion, the status of having, the thrill of pursuit.
If you are always available, always explaining, always proving, you shrink in value. If you leave space—uncertainty, mystery, a sense that your approval must be earned—you become more interesting, and interest turns into pull.
This is not about playing games; it’s about understanding attention. The human mind is restless. It attaches meaning to what resists easy capture. When you control access to yourself, you control the intensity of desire directed at you.