Willpower looks like a personality trait until you see it trained. This chapter shows how organizations can turn self-control into a routine by rehearsing responses to predictable stress.
The idea is simple: decide in advance what you’ll do when a cue hits—an angry customer, a rush, a mistake—and practice the script until it becomes automatic. The habit isn’t “be calm.” The habit is the sequence that produces calm.
Over time, these routines become portable. People who learn a few keystone behaviors—planning, pausing, reframing—carry them into school, work, and relationships because the brain likes repeatable solutions.
The chapter doesn’t romanticize grit. It treats willpower as muscle memory for decisions. Train the response, and you reduce the number of times you have to “be strong” in the moment.