People resist being pushed, but they enjoy arriving at their own conclusions. The Socratic approach is to guide with questions instead of commands.
Start with points of agreement. Ask questions that invite “yes” and build momentum. Each “yes” is a step toward shared ground, and shared ground is where persuasion happens.
This works because it preserves autonomy. The other person doesn’t feel conquered; they feel consulted. Their pride stays intact, so their mind remains flexible.
Questions also reveal what you’re actually dealing with. Often you argue about the surface while the real concern sits underneath: fear, cost, status, precedent. A question pulls that up.
Use questions to help the other person articulate the logic themselves. When an idea comes from their mouth, it feels like theirs to defend. That is influence without friction: you lead by inviting, not by forcing.