Getting what you want is not a single decision. It is a loop that repeats until you either evolve or quit.
First, set clear goals that you truly want, not goals that impress others. Then, notice the problems that stand in the way and refuse to normalize them. Next, diagnose: find the root causes instead of treating symptoms.
After diagnosis, design changes that address those causes. Then execute with discipline, while tracking outcomes honestly. When results diverge from expectations, the loop restarts with better information.
The process feels demanding because it removes excuses. You can’t blame luck forever if you keep refining the machine. But it also becomes liberating: progress is no longer mysterious. It becomes a repeatable practice—small, sometimes painful, and compounding over time.