“Fair” is a dangerous word because it sounds moral while hiding a move. People use it to end debate: if you resist, you look unreasonable.
Treat “fair” like a signal, not a verdict. Ask what it means in concrete terms, and whose standard is being used. Then reshape the frame. Instead of arguing about a number, talk about risk, time, alternatives, and what a bad outcome would cost them. When the story changes, the price can change.
This leans on how humans decide: we fear losses, we anchor on the first serious number, and we mistake confidence for accuracy. A calm voice, a slow pace, and clean labels keep you from being pulled into their frame.
You’re not trying to win an argument. You’re trying to bend the situation toward a deal that feels safe.
Now your questions do the work—giving them control while you gain leverage.