Read with a specific person in mind. Don’t search for flaws in the ideas; search for places you can test them this week.
Go slowly. Reread the sections that irritate you, because irritation often points to the habit you protect. Mark the principle that feels “too simple.” Simple is exactly what you forget under stress.
Turn every principle into a tiny experiment: one conversation, one email, one apology, one compliment. Then watch the response and refine your approach.
Keep a running record of your attempts—names, moments, results. Not for ego, but for proof. When you see progress written down, you stop treating improvement as a mood and start treating it as a skill.
Most people skim and admire. The payoff comes from practice: repetition until these behaviors show up automatically, especially when you’re tired.