Status spending is often aimed at an audience that isn’t watching the way you think. The admiration you imagine receiving usually lands on the object, not on you. And even when it lands on you, it’s often admiration for what you have, not for who you are.
The paradox is that the buyer is usually chasing respect, while the observer is usually thinking about themselves: what they want, what they feel they lack, what they wish they could show the world. So the loop becomes endless—people buying symbols of worth to impress people who are too busy chasing their own symbols.
This doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy nice things. It means you should be honest about what you’re paying for. If you’re paying for insecurity relief, the relief won’t last. If you’re paying for joy, that’s different.
The real flex is rarely visible. It’s the ability to not care about being seen.